Love and betrayal

American Professor Helen Fisher almost half a century devoted to the study of the nature of love and attraction. She believes that love is attraction. People are willing to die and even kill in the name of love, she is an inspiration for creative people, is for some an obsession, but does not stop on the way to treason. Based on the research of the famous scientist, we decided to try and better understand what is love and why she pushes us to do certain actions?

Love is not an emotion, and desire

To approve Helen Fisher, love is much stronger than sexual attraction. If you are denied intimacy, you're not going to kill a man. If your feelings remain unrequited, it can take a serious turn. Simply put, the loved one becomes the loving center of the Universe. He always wants to be around, he notices there is only a positive quality, is born the feeling of possessiveness, whatever you like to your loved one, begins to be of particular value.

What is love?

Romantic love can be described in three words:

• motivation;
• thirst;
• obsession.

The last characteristic of scientists clearly observed during the study of the brain 32 enamoured to madness of people. During the passage of the imaging experiment of the participants were asked how often they think about the object of his love. To which they unanimously replied: "I think, without ceasing". When they asked the question: "are You ready to give life for a loved one?", they instantly answered "Yes," as a matter of course.

The next stage of the experiment consisted in scanning the brain when they looked at the man in love and something else. The researchers saw that the brain is in an active state, it comes to rest. Moreover, such activity usually occurs when the drug or during orgasm. That has led to the conclusion, love is not an emotion. This attraction, due to the eager activity of the brain. The stronger the love, the more dopamine is produced. It activates part of the brain responsible for arousal, pleasure and motivation to get what you want.

Why change if gets the pleasure of love?

Romantic love is only one of the three types of brain States.

Just psychology there are such States:

1. Sexual attraction, desire to sexual satisfaction. Helen Fisher calls this "the intolerable neural itch," haunting.
2. Romantic love.
3. Attachment is confidence in the partner, a sense of peace and stability.
   

"I'm sure all this can be applied Darwin's theory, says Professor Fisher. - Sexual attraction is necessary for us to find a partner and procreation, romantic love is needed to this occurred with one person, and attachment allows us a long time to be with someone and raise children together".

What's the problem?

However, there are cases when a person tied to their partner, but at the same time in love with someone else and the lust of a third person. "To be brief, we are able to love multiple people at the same time and each wanting different," explains Helen Fisher. It is not surprising that we can go to bed with one person and mentally to experience romantic feelings about the other.

Finally a bit of magic

"Frankly, I'm not sure what we are created for happiness,' says the Professor. - We are living beings, whose purpose is to reproduce. Our happiness is the result of our efforts. However, I'm sure we can build a harmonious relationship without deceit."

To many the above may sound cynical, but Fisher adds that in spite of our natural essence, love is still a place for "magic". After all, is not fully known why we fall in love with a specific person, not everyone else.

Hardly anyone dares to deny that often the object of our love becomes someone who has a kind of mystery. By the way, and it is worth to mention dopamine, which grows and brings us to a new level of feelings. We also subconsciously drawn to people who meet our list of characteristics that develops as they grow older.

Despite all this, we are the builders of their own happiness, even if by nature we are inclined to change, we should not forget about loyalty, respect, education, and other moral and cultural foundations that make us human. But maybe some of us will now look at the cheating on the occurrence of a chemical reaction, not a conscious choice.

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